Jacob’s Transformation Models Wrestling with Ourselves in the Wilderness

Sashya Clark
Dec 5
4 min read

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Parashat Vayishlach — A Lech-Lecha Reflection

When this week’s parsha opens, Jacob is finally on his way home after twenty long years in Lavan’s household. But this isn’t the sweet homecoming most of us imagine. The last time he saw his brother Esau, Esau vowed to kill him. Going home means walking straight back into unfinished business — the kind most of us would do anything to avoid.

And yet… Jacob goes. He "Lech-Lechas" as in: he "goes unto himself and he goes." Much like our patriarch Avraham, in an act of great bravery and humility, he heeds the call on his soul and starts walking in a new direction, stepping away from the security of Lavan’s settlement, away from the cacophony of societal expectations, and back into the wilderness, where the real transformation begins.

The Journey IS the Destination, and Where the Soul Opens

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Lech-Lecha has always believed that the most profound spiritual insights happen when we break out of the noise — physically, emotionally, spiritually — so our hearts and souls can really hear, and it is often out in nature where we can hear clearly.

Jacob’s story is a perfect example.

It’s on the journey home, not arriving at the destination, that Jacob begins to change. The Torah slows down the narrative here, describing every detail of how Jacob prepares to meet Esau: the messengers, the gifts, the careful strategy, the dividing of the camps.

Why? Because this is the anatomy of teshuva.

Jacob isn’t just scared; he’s finally willing to repair what he broke. He sends gifts ahead not to buy safety, but to pay back what he took by dishonest gain. Long before an apology passes his lips, he acts — tangibly, humbly, bravely.

Teshuva is not “I’m sorry.” It’s restoration.

It’s making right what you can, even when you’re terrified.

Hashem Models Teshuva Too

There’s a beautiful, hidden symmetry in this parsha: Jacob, who once deceived, becomes deceived by Lavan. The years Lavan steals from him — the wages withheld, the labor exploited, the swapped wives, the time lost — are all repaid by Hashem sevenfold when Jacob’s flocks begin to flourish beyond anything Lavan can control.

In other words, Hashem shows him:

This is how repair works. This is what it looks like to restore what was taken.

Jacob learns the pattern of teshuva not just through suffering, but through divine generosity.

The Night You Meet Yourself - and Jacob's Transformation

All of this culminates in the mysterious midnight wrestling match on the riverbank. Who was this mysterious apparition that locked arms and refused to let go of Jacob?

Was it an angel?

Was it Esau’s spiritual counterpart? Esau himself?

Was it Jacob wrestling Hashem? Or just the Divine within himself?

However we understand it, the pattern is clear:

It is in the stillness of the night, alone in the wilderness where he finally confronts who he has been, and who he really wants to be.

He wrestles until dawn, until he can say his own name out loud with honesty, until he can surrender and admit he no longer wants to be the one who grasps at the heal and success of others, until he emerges with a new name — Israel — the name of someone who has wrestled with God and come through transformed.

A trail name he earned. Bought and paid for with his limp.

Anyone who has slept under the stars, walked a dark trail, or sat quietly by a flickering campfire knows exactly what this feels like. Nature has a way of stripping everything down, leaving us face-to-face with our truest questions:

Who am I?

Who have I been?

Who am I becoming?

This is why our ancestors encountered angels on the road.

This is why Moshe heard God most clearly on a mountain.

This is why so many of us find clarity on a trail in the middle of nowhere.

The wilderness loosens the noise enough for the soul to speak.

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The Wilderness Quiets Us

This is the heart of Lech-Lecha’s mission.

We step away — into the beauty of creation — away from the static and noise — because that IS where the breakthroughs happen.

That’s where Jacob became Israel.

That’s where we transform.

Whether it’s a 15-day adventure with teens, or an adult excursion in Alaska, a cabin retreat among the pines and the peaks, or a long weekend on the Appalachian Trail, the pattern is always the same:

People arrive as one version of themselves…and leave as another.

And like Jacob, they walk away with a blessing.

Come Journey With Us

If this reflection stirred something in you — that quiet tug toward growth, toward nature, toward hearing the still-small voice again — we’d love for you to journey with us.